Self Obsessed Society

Saturday, February 8, 2014

*Photography by Hayley Christiansen
{Beanie | Urban Outfitters } {heels | Charlotte Russe} {Boyfriend jeans | Zara}
 {Coat | Stella's boutique} {Sweatshirt | Target}

In some way are we all narcissists?  We live in a world where we document everything we do.  Every night out with friends, every coffee with a cool foam design on the top, every sunrise, every fresh manicure…  Facebook, Instagram, and blogs, to name a few, allow us to develop this enhanced persona.  And with these platforms, we can create the “best” version of our life.

For me, blogging is my creative outlet.  It’s my personal diary, one I choose to share publicly.  Before I even entered the blogging world, I was struggling with a little voice in my head that blogging is correlated with self-absorption.  And I continue to find that thought disturbing.  Yes, my blog focuses on myself, and what’s going on in my life.  Is that vain of me to share?

I don’t think the answer is black or white.  There are great things that can come from blogging.  Building connections and friendships, expressing one’s self, and becoming a better writer are all examples.  I think it ultimately roots back to intentions.  My blog, like any blog, could be viewed as an exhibition of self-absorption, and that’s a “risk” I am willing to take.  Personally I hope you find some enjoyment or humor here, but if you only see self-absorption, ask yourself is it really any different than any other form of social media that our society is consumed by?

In good faith, 

Adore Me Giveaway

Wednesday, February 5, 2014

Adore Me is a New York City based, fast fashion lingerie company offering designer lingerie and sleepwear at affordable prices.  The options are endless making choosing difficult, but with the help of a “Short Style Profile Quiz”, I was given a personalized shopping experience, with selections best made for me.  In the end I opted for the Aaliyah set.  While I was browsing the site, one friend commented, “Whoa, are you buying something for someone special?”  When I told my sister about the lingerie she asked, “Will you actually wear it though?  Or is just for a boy?” My friend/photographer saw the piece and asked, “So who are you going to wear this for Tess?”
More interesting than how concerned my friends are about my love life, or lack thereof, is what their questions inferred—that our undergarments aren’t for us.  Today, the idea is that seductive looking undergarments are supposed to make us look and feel sexy.  So I pose a question, when buying lingerie do you wear it simply for yourself, or do you wear it for a significant other?
If we don’t wear lingerie for someone else, why then?  Is it to make looking in the mirror a little more electric?  Is it self-empowering?  Still unsure, I went to Google. Yep, and I typed, “Why do we wear lingerie?”  The first page of results ranged from “How to be a good girlfriend and wear lingerie” to “Lingerie: The Tools of Seduction”.   I don’t know about you, but I sure don’t measure my personal sexiness by what’s beneath my clothing.  Maybe dressing up what’s underneath should be more about boosting our confidence, and making our outer appearance feel a little more beautiful than solely wearing it for men.   What do you think?

In good faith,

Now, what you all really care about: FREE stuff.  Below you can enter for a chance to win a free lingerie set of your choosing.  The winner will be selected randomly, and announced in one week.  May the odds be ever in your favor. 

**The first three steps are mandatory in order to be eligible to win**

  1. Follow my blog (to become a follower, you must click the 'join this site' button on the right side of my blog, and enter your email address.)
  2. Follow Adore Me on Instagram (@AdoreMeOfficial)
  3. Leave a comment on this post with your nameemail address, and your favorite lingerie set from Adore Me

**After you complete the first 3 steps, you can gain extra entries 2 ways**

  1. Follow me on Instagram (@TessBigando)
  2. 'Like' In Good Faith, Tess on Facebook 

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